Sunday Links

Yesterday I indulged in some delightful time on my computer. I’m on my computer all the freakin’ time, and a lot of times I want nothing more than to NOT be on my computer. But I usually feel rushed or guilty and I skim things and try to consume a lot at once. Yesterday I let myself go on a leisurely “stroll” through one blogger’s entire Whole 30 journey, listened to a fun song, and felt relaxed and calm. So that was fun.

  • I don’t know why, but I’m fascinated by this video of what happens inside your dishwasher.

” Somewhere along the way, it became easier to just make the choices myself and move ahead. It was more efficient that way. But, let me tell you, I’ve never heard of a happy marriage that was described as “easy” or “efficient.””

  • It’s easy to fall into this trap, not only just in marriage! I’ve been tempted with issues like this in work relationships.

  • And on a related note, a cute infographic about elements of a happy marriage.

  • Drinking this Cucumber Grapefruit Fizz might potentially boost my happiness in general.

  • My cousin posted about Spiked Seltzer on Facebook and I am reaalllly bummed that they are only sold in the Northeast!

Andy’s been out of town again at a conference in Stockholm. (Coincidentally, my parents were also traveling, in Santa Cruz, CA, and my mom was texting me beautiful pictures of the ocean and between the two trips I felt a little bummed sitting on my couch on Saturday. But such is life.)

How do you eat your trail mix? I have a tendency to pick everything apart and eat like things together. But maybe there’s something to be said for eating an whole handful all at once.

The most expensive address stamp I’ll ever own!

The Allure of Free Food

Oh, the allure of free food. In my mind I mostly associate it with college. Especially on a big campus, it’s quite possible to plan every meal to get something for free by attending different clubs, presentations, etc. And in fact, I have a friend who did this for a little while!

But even post-college, it’s around. When we lived in Huntsville, we were involved in a lot of groups at church that involved food, so there were definitely several nights a week that I didn’t have to cook. That was a bit of a shock for me when we moved to Atlanta, because we hadn’t gotten invested anywhere yet and I was all of a sudden responsible for feeding us a lot more!

I got in a really good groove with that, as evidenced by my weekly meal plans. I cook dinner and use the leftovers for lunch, and Andy and I are both pretty much creatures of habit as far as breakfast goes. At my most recent employer, there were sometimes treats around, but mostly only at the holidays. Unfortunately, though, when those were in the kitchen I found it extremely hard to resist!

So imagine the temptation when I started working at a building that provides free snacks and sodas. I had practically given up diet soda, but I found myself drinking one every day again, just because they were around. And the chocolate covered pretzels called my name with all too much frequency.

Some of my fellow employees like and even count on there being free food around. We pick on one of our instructors who “meetup hops” for dinner every night (though she’s obviously getting value out of the meetup, too!). And on a couple of days when I forgot my lunch, I was glad there was stuff around to get me through the day. But that’s what it felt like–getting through the day. I wasn’t getting good nutrients from or even particularly enjoying the things I was shoveling in my mouth to fill my belly.

I’m trying to be really intentional now about making sure I bring lunch and snacks with me that I enjoy and that are good for me, even though there are technically snacks here. I have a budget for groceries every month, and I shouldn’t begrudge myself spending it! Just because the food here is free doesn’t mean it’s good. In fact, I would argue that free food is maybe the worst. I personally tend to eat more of it, or in worse combinations, than I would if I were paying for it, and you tend not to think about what you’re eating because you just eat what’s there. Free food has its place and time to be enjoyed, but in general it works best for me to eschew it.

Sunday Links

Andy and I had a rousing housewarming party yesterday. It was a good impetus for us to finish assembling all the various furniture we’ve ordered and to finally get a few things put away that had been lingering. Then I spent today climbing out from under mountains of dishes and the place feels great now! We still need art on the walls and maybe some rugs, but I feel pretty overwhelmed by both of those, so it may be awhile (and that’s fine by me).

  • I love this list of 59 things to do to feel alive.

  • I have a tendency to save my stickers. But I have a new modus operandi of not owning anything “precious.” Not that I don’t want nice things, but that I want everything I own to be something that I USE and love while I’m doing it! I don’t want to constantly worry about chipping things, staining things, etc. I want nice things, but I want to use them. So I guess I’m not saving my stickers!

  • These cats just made me smile.

  • I have embraced the quitting of books of late. It took a long time for me to get there, but really? Life’s too short to spend time reading a book you’re not enjoying. No one is going to give you a gold star for finishing it. It doesn’t matter in the cosmic scheme of things, and you’re the only one telling yourself it does!

  • 20 things you need in your kitchen to cook like a pro I have most of these! My kitchen shears are indispensable. And a cookie scoop is on my list!

It’s been hot and humid here.

And it seems like all of a sudden lots of people are getting engaged!

I finally went to see The Fault in Our Stars this afternoon. I love John Green and I also hate John Green a little bit.

Happy Sunday, and on to Monday!

musical cravings

Sometimes I have what I can only describe as musical cravings. It can be for a certain song or just a certain type of music. If I’m out of town and not listening to the radio in my car for awhile, I find myself missing country music. (I NEVER could have predicted I’d ever type those words!) Lately I’ve been dying for beautiful female voices.

  • Allison Kraus fits the bill. A friend of mine posted a picture on Instagram of her and her husband at an outdoor Allison Kraus concert and I was inspired to pull up her albums on Spotify. They did not disappoint!

I want a simple love like that / Always giving never asking back / When I’m in my final hour looking back / I hope I had a simple love like that

  • I’ve hearkened back to my high school days with Eisley. These two get particularly lodged in my head!

(We have a path near our new place called the Trolley Path, so of course I think of this song every time I walk on it!)

  • And the ever-lovely Audrey Assad has a new EP out. I don’t even know how I feel spiritually about what she’s singing but her voice is just so, so beautiful that I want to listen to it forever. Heartbreakingly beautiful. It makes my soul ache. I can’t find the link where I was able to listen to the entire EP, but I think this song was on it.

And this has always been one of my favorites that she sings.

I don’t know why this is what’s been speaking to me lately, but it’s fun to give into this kind of craving!

Do you go through musical phases? Have you ever felt a craving for a certain kind of music?

trains & automobiles

Atlanta is a hard city to get around. Our car culture runs deep. Even if traffic is light (which it rarely is), there often aren’t direct routes between point A and point B, as lore has it that the streets follow former cow paths. Rush hour goes until about 8 p.m.; you’re just as likely to sit in standstill traffic at 7:30 as you are at 4:30.

After moving about 2 miles farther east and starting a job at a location about a mile farther north than my old office, I was finding that it routinely took me up to an hour to get to work. And then, due to the orientation of the parking deck exit, it was taking 10-15 minutes for me to even get ONTO the road toward home, not to mention the hour or so to get there. On top of all that, the parking situation at my building changed, and we were given the choice of a monthly MARTA pass OR a parking spot. Given my experience with driving, I chose the pass.

And thus I became one of those people who uses public transportation.

As I’m writing this, it’s hot outside, and I’ve taken two different train trips already today, missing one train by a hair (I was literally at the door as it pulled away) and one trip on foot to the post office, and I’m wiped out and feeling like public transportation is for the birds.

It has its pros and cons, for sure. But I’m fortunate in that I’m mostly doing this by choice. I am able-bodied, and though it might tire me out some days, the walks to and from the stations are doable for me. If the weather is terrible, if I’m sick, if I get injured, if I need to run errands that will involve carrying a lot of stuff, I can hop in my car. I can pay to park somewhere if I need to. I have gained a wealth of empathy for the people for whom using public transportation is not a choice. Those who have to walk AND take a bus to even access a train station, and then may have to take multiple trains. Those whose only access to a grocery store involves navigating the system. Those for whom standing up on the packed rush hour trains is a painful struggle. I have a lot of good reasons for choosing public transportation. I appreciate it, and I have a vested interest in helping make it better with my vote, with my tax dollars etc. But ultimately for me it is a choice, and one that I’m grateful for. Taking the train and walking home maybe take equally as long as driving (though if I time it right, it takes less!), but it is far less stressful and is much better for my long-term sanity.

Some of the tangential upsides to taking the train:

  • I’m walking a lot. I hit 10,000 steps on my FitBit just about every day I take the train, and most days get many more. It’s about 7/10 of a mile from my condo to the train station, and then another half a mile from the end station to my office. (And that’s not including the fact that my office is on the 5th floor and the elevators in the building have been down…) So that’s over 2 miles of walking every day!

  • I’m reading a lot. I didn’t think I’d be able to read on the train due to getting motion sick, but I’m finding it works out pretty well. I even mastered reading on my Kindle while standing up! So I get in a good 45 minutes or so of reading a day between all my train rides. It’s amazing to be engrossed in a story and then all of a sudden look up and realize you’re at your stop! A little disorienting, but wonderful.

  • I’m shopping less. I pass a lot of businesses on my way to work if I drive. I would often plan couponing stops for my commute, or pop in somewhere if I went out to run an errand during the day. And, I’ll be honest, I stopped at the Marshall’s near my old office with some frequency. The train cuts out that temptation for me. Even if it were convenient, I’d have to carry anything I bought, which would give me pause! This is good for my budget. :-)

  • I’m emitting fewer greenhouse gases. (self-explanatory)

Some things are certainly less convenient. On Monday, we needed an HDMI cable for one of our classrooms somewhat ASAP. I walked to the train station, took it one stop south, walked to Best Buy, wash, rinse, repeat. It took me about an hour. For reference, Best Buy is 2.7 miles from my office. In a car, the whole shebang would probably have taken me 30 minutes, been less of an ordeal, and tired me out less. But this is what I signed up for. On the commute ends I have no complaints; it’s mostly just the middle of the day stuff that is sometimes a pain in the butt.

I’m not rushing out to sell my car. I don’t think the transit system in Atlanta is mature enough that we could handle being a zero-car family. I actually appreciate my car a lot more now when I do use it, because it’s usually during off-peak traffic times and I’m just zipping somewhere nearby, so it feels crazy efficient! We have one assigned parking spot at our condo building, and the one car works for us. But it’s gracing its spot a lot more often these days than it ever used to, and that’s a pretty neat thing.

What’s your transportation mode of choice? Would you ever consider being a one-car family?